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Published On:Tuesday, February 09, 2010

By JEFFARAH GIBSON

The sensuality of Valentine's Day makes it particularly easy to feel down in the dumps or sad if you don't have a mate.

Society has been made to believe that this day was only established for intimate companions to celebrate their love for each other.

And though this is what many believe, Rayette McDonald, president of Miss Full Figured Bahamas and the new Miss Teen Plus Bahamas Beauty Pageant said that relationships are held in such high esteem that people maintain the perception that it is not possible to enjoy Valentine's Day without a significant other.

Ms McDonald said that finding happiness from within, and doing the things that will uplift your spirits is the key to making it through Valentine's Day alone.

She also said spending time with close relatives, loving friends will fill the void of not having someone in your life.

"People have to get out of that mindset that they need someone in their life to make them happy or feel good about themselves. Do things for yourself and you will see how much better you feel," she said.

Seeing others bask in the ambiance of happiness with their partners may trigger feelings of loneliness or sadness. While these feelings are normal, Ms McDonald said that rather than dwell on it, you should occupy yourself by doing something you enjoy.

"From my experience, I must say that before I started an intimate relationship when Valentines Day came around I did not wait on someone to tell me I am special. I did not wait on someone else to send me flowers or chocolates. I lit my own candle and I did those things that made me feel good about myself," she told Tribune Woman.

Planning a day with just your friends is another idea since as Ms McDonald said: "nothing is better than having a few good friends to get loose with and have a good time," she said.

Throwing a "singles" party can be great fun giving you the opportunity to mix and mingle with others.

But if you are not the type who takes keen interest in socializing , Ms McDonald suggests using this time for a little introspection, and self pampering.

"This is the perfect time to direct most of your attention to yourself. Do a little introspection, then afterwards pamper yourself or treat yourself to something very special," she said.

"Don't wait for others to make the sunshine in your life. It's all about you. Being in a relationship doesn't matter that much. What really matters is expressing that love to those who you truly care about. These are the kind of things that will make your Valentines Day one to enjoy," she said.