Published On:Monday, March 08, 2010

By JEFFARAH GIBSON

Tribune Features Writer

TRIBUNE Woman has been on a quest to uncover the true definition of the word " sexy" and as would be expected, the meaning changes between men and women.

Last week Tribune Woman, asked a few men what is it they found engaging about a woman-their responses included superficial and 'beyond the surface answers".

This week we wanted to know what it is about a man that makes a woman's eye twinkle, and stomach flutter.

And after speaking to these women a mutual opinion shared by them is that -sexy is what sexy thinks!

"Confidence is everything," said Ava Turnquest who said this tells much more about how a man feels about himself.

"A guy that is sure of himself grabs my attention. Not when he is over confident or cocky by the way. Its just that when a man is sure of himself it means that nothing that anyone says to him matters."

She added that a man who is goal oriented and has an idea of where his life is headed is a "good catch."

"What I also find very sexy is a man who does not only know what he wants in a woman, but knows what he wants in life," she told Tribune Woman.

From yester years women have been taught to seek a mate that is goal oriented, will take the lead, fulfilling his divine role as the sole provider and bread winner of the home. And although times have changed, this criteria hasn't.

A man that is desirous for success is probably in every woman's blueprint of the perfect man. This particular quality open the eyes and raises the eyebrow for Stacey Rolle* as well.

"A man that knows what he wants is great, but a man that has the drive and is aggressive enough to follow through is even better," she said.

While she finds it very sexy when a guy is aggressive at chasing his dreams, when he's with her he must tame that aggression and turn it into gentleness.

He must unlock the key to her heart, surprise her with hugs from behind and other affectionate gestures non-sexual in nature.

"Looks aren't most important to me. What I like is a guy that is nice, sweet, caring and treat me like a princess, this is my definition of sexy," Stacey explained.

On the other hand, Alesha Cadet said that a man that is in control is the most enticing thing. To her this is his rightful place.

"When I say I find a guy sexy that is in control, I don't mean a guy that is abusive or too aggressive. I mean it in the sense that he doesn't beckon to my every call. A guy who allows me to run over him is not going to get me interested," she told Tribune Woman.

Apart from the physical attributes one may possess another woman Dahlia Graham* said that a man that can resist a woman no matter how beautiful she is will have her knees weak.

"For instance, if there is a guy who is in a committed relationship and there is a very beautiful sexy woman who constantly throws herself at him' and he resists her just to honour his commitment with his partner gets ten stars from me. In some odd way I find that very sexy, even a little magnetic, since most people know men are physical and the fact that he can defy his nature makes him powerful in my eyes" she said.

To Lola Cartwright* courtly love is an enchantment in itself. "I want to know that chivalry is not dead with me," Lola said.

Unlike men, looks are the least bit important to these women. However, that does not mean a guy with an unkempt appearance, makes the cut. These women said a man must be well groomed, and have a ravishing finish to be the definition of sexy.

Jennie Hill* told Tribune Woman that a tall, firmly built guy clad in a suit with a cigar protruding from his mouth is 'hot'.

"This heightens his sex appeal. I don't know if it's because it brings out his masculinity but this is very hot to me," Jennie said.

The lingering fragrance of the Armani Code or Calvin Klein cologne is enough to get the blood running Jennie said.

"Wow a man that looks great and smells great is enchanting," she said.

A combination of great looks, confidence, ambition, and romance is what these women say make a man sexy.

*Names have been changed.