By JEFFARAH GIBSON
Tribune Features Writer
jgibson@tribunemedia.net
WHILE many women believe a good man is hard to find, there are also quite a few Bahamian men out there who share the sentiments of R&B artist Bobby V, who once sang “finding wifey ain’t no easier”.
Some Bahamian men, just like many women, are in search of a suitable partner, but have made numerous wrong turns in their quest for a successful relationship.
Those negative experiences have often made them wary of seeking out love.
Tired of being alone, but unsure how to proceed, many Bahamian are now turning to life coach Stanya Davis for assistance.
Ms Davis helps men find true love and friendship through her matchmaking service, Adam’s Journey.
“The main reason for starting my own matchmaking company is that there are many single people who have one thing in common – they cannot find the right partner. They do not want to go looking in bars and nightclubs, so I do the work for them. In addition to being a matchmaker, I also have a degree in psychology and I am a certified life coach – all of which help me to not only find suitable partners for people, but to coach them along the way,” she told Tribune Woman.
Through Adam’s Journey, Stanya has matched many couples who have since gotten married and are in thriving relationships.
Adam’s Journey, she said, is a matchmaking boutique that offers confidential and personalised matching for commitment-minded single professional men over 30 who are seeking love.
Stanya said through her work she comes into contact with many men who all have similar wishes and desires.
“After interviewing the men, I find out that they are very similar to women and they want mostly the same things as women. They want someone who is humble, who does not nag or is very loud. Some of them also said that they wanted a woman who is also supportive and brings something to the table. They also want someone who is attractive and is effortlessly beautiful. So most of the things that women want is what a lot of men want too,” she said.
Stanya said she prefers assisting men aged 30 and over with finding a mate. She believes at that age most men are ready and willing to be in a long-term monogamous relationship.
“I do have about two members in their 20s, but I prefer men who are over the age of 30, because I believe that is the age when men really start living. A younger man on the other hand has a lot more things to experience and is usually not ready to settle down at that age. The members who are, however, in their 20s are very mature and career-oriented. They are at a point in their life where they know what they want and are ready to move forward in a committed relationship with someone who is like-minded,” she said.
When men seek out Stanya’s services in finding a match, they fill out a questionnaire that gives a general idea about who they are, their family, as well as information about their past relationships.
Then, Stanya arranges a meeting with the man to discuss the questionnaire and get a little deeper into who they are.
“This is a very important part of the process, because I have to get to know my clients very well so that I can present them well to a prospect. Additionally, there are some concerns that come up as a result to the answers the men provide and clarity is needed. I find that people look very good on paper, but when we you meet them they are totally different,” she said.
“During this time, I also determine whether or not this man is a good candidate, because not everyone is part of the matchmaking service. Only men who are serious about finding love and truly want to be in a committed relationship are part of the service,” she said.
Stanya said she also provides coaching to the men because some of them come with a lot of emotional baggage that must be dumped before they can enter into a romantic relationship with another person.
“It is about knowing you, who you are and having a full understanding of your wants and needs on a more personal level. Although I have a network and database of single women, the true search begins the day I meet the men and continues as I personally interview each and every potential partner for them,” she said.
Women are also invited to join the network; some of them will become suitable matches for members of Adam’s Journey.
“The women I seek out are beautiful, classy, intelligent and feminine. Women are able to submit a complimentary profile to my dating network, giving us greater access to more incredible women. These women need to ‘wow’ me first before I will ever tell my clients about them. My job is to learn if they are as beautiful on the inside as they are on the outside,” she said.
Stanya personally meets each woman and may also end up coaching them.
“My goal is to make sure my clients only meet the women that are fantastic on every level. They will know a great deal about each woman prior to the dates, because I take the time to get to know the women first. This includes a personal one-on-one meeting, photos and accurate descriptions of looks, personality, family, lifestyle, social background and relationship history. All of my personal meetings and evaluations are a minimum of one hour,” she said.
Thereafter, a decision about how the Adam’s Journey member will meet his prospect is made.
As a matchmaker, Stanya said she respects and honours everyone’s need for privacy. She said the members of Adam’s Journey have complete knowledge and approval of all introductions prior to exchange of information and telephone numbers.
It is her hope to help many more men and women struggling to find true love and lasting friendship.
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TCIGal60 9 years ago
Do you find True Love for women also?
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