Break-Out Session: The mysterious Gräfenberg Spot

By Dr Monique Thompson

“Dear Dr Thompson, I have been following and enjoying your weekly articles. I wanted to contribute to your Break-Out Session. If you think it would interest other readers, can you talk a bit about the G-spot? I hear different things about it and it’s hard to really ask anyone because anything ‘sex’ is so taboo nowadays. Thank you”

– Anonymous.

THE G-spot has been a topic of scientific discussion for at least 30 years now, and in my opinion, it is worth every bit of it. Yes! Let us find out about other ways to bring about intense pleasure to females other than the (hopefully) straightforward clitoral stimulation. Guys, get ready to brighten your horizons in the art of female pleasure.

To understand this debate on Gräfenberg’s elusive spot, basic anatomy is needed. The best researchers can conclude at this point is that the G-spot is not one specific area of the female genitals. Rather, it likely involves a few structures within the vaginal wall including an internal portion of the clitoris, the urethral sponge, as well as the paraurethral glands, also called ‘Skene’s glands’ (Jannini, Whipple, Kingsberg, Buisson, Foldès, & Vardi, 2010).

The clitoris is widely known for its major role in female sexual arousal and orgasm, but the urethral sponge is hardly ever talked about. It is tissue that actually surrounds the clitoral nerve. It is composed of erectile tissue which engorges with blood and enlarges as females become aroused; it has very sensitive nerve endings which when stimulated are highly erogenous; and it contains the Skene’s glands or ‘female prostate,’ which is involved with female ejaculations (that right there is another topic for another day...). The urethral sponge is such a pleasure point when stimulated, scientists attribute intense vaginal orgasms and female ejaculations to it without direct clitoral stimulation. It is within this area – specifically the Skene’s glands – the G-spot is proposed to reside.

“OK Doc, thanks for all the terms I didn’t really get. Just tell me how to get to it.” Right. For starters, this point is more readily noticeable once a woman is already somewhat aroused, which means that foreplay is still important. Do not be stingy in this area! To stimulate this erotic zone with your lady lying on her back, insert one or two fingers into the vagina as far as they would go comfortably, press upward towards the woman’s navel, and slide your fingers back almost like you are calling someone to you.

Another way to stimulate the point is via the rear-entry sexual position. Here, the female lays flat on her tummy on the bed (floor, table etc.), making sure that her butt is in-line with her body. Due to positioning, the penis is inserted at a downward angle, which more often than not, puts pressure on the top portion of the vaginal wall, stimulating the urethral sponge/G-spot. So for those who enjoy that particular position, perhaps this is one more reason why.

In closing, we were not all created exactly the same, so husbands, you may have to put pressure on slightly different areas before you nail it, and that is fine. As a note, some women find the area so sensitive that stimulation can be uncomfortable, so be sure to note your partner’s reaction. I also wanted to mention that in some studies that were conducted, there were some women who did not report having a G-spot, or a highly sensitive area within the vaginal wall (poor darlings!). If you try, and try but cannot find the area, do not be discouraged. There are many, many other ways to experience sexual pleasures.

• Disclaimer – this information is not intended to diagnose or treat any condition, rather to be used for educational purposes. Dr Monique Thompson is the founder of Cornerstone Healing Institute and can be contacted at 356-0083 or info@chibahamas.com with any questions/comments.


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