The Tribune

Being diagnosed with diabetes can be a distressing moment and coming to terms with it can be a long process. Even years after being diagnosed you may find yourself asking, “Why did this happen to me?”

Accepting your diagnosis is not easy but it can be of benefit, directly or indirectly, for your interpersonal relationships.

Diabetes will invariably have some effect on the relationships you have. In some cases, the effects may be minor, but for others diabetes can be a lurking source of friction.

How we deal with the pressures of diabetes can make a real difference to the relationships we have with others, be they friends, family, work colleagues or acquaintances. One thing which can sometimes help is to tell people about your diabetes.

If you’re planning to visit a restaurant this Valentine’s Day it may help to explain to your significant other or people that you are with what things you need to consider when eating out to adequately manage your diabetes and why.

Even someone close to you may need a reminder or clarification at times. It’s good to be mindful of your partner and try not to make too much of an issue of your diabetes.

Don’t let yourself fall into the trap of expecting others to read your mind. If people are making you feel uncomfortable about your choices, then gently let them know, but bear in mind that they are unlikely to be aware of what you are thinking.

If your partner has diabetes, the following positive actions can be helpful:

• Take an interest in your partner’s diabetes, but let him/her be in control

• Suggest ideas

• Allow your partner time for managing diabetes

• Be prepared for mood changes

• Discuss any problems with your sex life

• Discuss your feelings

• For more information, contact the Diabetic Research Institute at 325-5134 or e-mailinfo@diabetecresearchinstitute.com