EDITOR, The Tribune.
This morning while stopped at a red light, there was a car in the adjacent lane with a woman driver and two children, in the back seat. One child, about 18 months old was in a car seat behind the passenger’s seat. The older child was behind the driver’s seat and the woman was shouting at him and pointing her finger in his face threatening to hit him and calling him names. The child was visibly distraught and dejected. I was sorely tempted to intervene, but decided against confronting an angry female in traffic.
Recently in your daily there was an article with a local group asking the government to do more about “gender” related issues. They voiced concerns about domestic violence and rape, etc, but when will we address the real issue here. Men were once boys who were most often raised in homes with women. Abuse first takes place in the home and even if it is not physical abuse, there is likely verbal abuse like I witnessed. The scars and trauma from hurtful words last far longer than those of physical abuse as most people should know from personal experience.
We see this culture of abuse all around us. Angry women (sometimes men too) shouting at their children in public, forcefully pulling them by the arm or threatening what they will do to them when they get home. Those entrusted with innocence destroy it with angry words that adversely affect a child’s perception of themselves, their self worth and that of others. These children are allowed to marinate in an environment of anger and hostility, being unloved for most of their childhoods and then we expect them to be kind, responsible, loving and productive members of society?
What I saw this morning was sad, but it is also reflective of a simple truth, many women are responsible for creating the monsters that become abusers of others. Too many children are being raised in a culture of abuse. Too many people have children before they are emotionally or financially ready for them. Too many do not understand their responsibilities as parents. We are reaping what we have collectively sown. It’s time to face that simple truth and change!
JB
Nassau,
September 2, 2022.
Comments
themessenger 1 year, 8 months ago
“when will we address the real issue here. Men were once boys who were most often raised in homes with women. Abuse first takes place in the home and even if it is not physical abuse, there is likely verbal abuse like I witnessed.” You have perhaps, albeit unwittingly, put your finger on the real issue indeed. Your question begs where are the MEN who helped conceive these children but conveniently abdicated their parental responsibility leaving a single mentally and financially stressed out WOMAN, aka MOTHER, to attempt to do the job of two parents? What our country has in abundance is fornicators not FATHERS, fix this and you’ll go a long way to fixing the problem.
joeblow 1 year, 8 months ago
... the role of a father is undisputed and men do need to step up and do their part (as alluded to in the end of the letter), but that is not the point I was trying to make, when women abuse their male children, rather than teaching them how to respect women their actions do the opposite. Boys who love their mothers are more likely to treat women with respect. In this day and age with the easy availability of contraception, no woman has to have multiple unwanted pregnancies.
If women were to raise the standard of those they choose to lie down with, that would also go a long way to helping solve the problem; many problems in fact!! If you lie down with dogs, you get up with fleas!
themessenger 1 year, 8 months ago
@joeblow, I am in agreement with your assessment insomuch that boys who love their mothers are more likely to treat women in general with respect.
I also agree that with so many forms of contraception available there is no reason for unwanted pregnancies' other than those by impoverished and uneducated women, of which there are many, misguidedly seeking financial security.
But how do women determine the standards of those men they choose to lie with as many of our "leading male citizens" and politicians who lead profligate life styles and prey upon them have no more morals or conscience than a street potcake including fleas?
Improved life skills education taught from an early age, Social Service outreach programs and the so called Christian Council getting their collective fingers out to reach out to and mentor at risk youths instead of mouthing their usual lame platitudes would also help improve our country's high level of illegitimacy and social disfunction.
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